How to Forgive Yourself in 7 Steps

We all have relationships in our lives that have lasted long enough for us to have hurt that person at one point or another. For this reason, we try to learn from mistakes, to behave differently, and of course to ask forgiveness from those who we’ve hurt. However, many of us forget to ask forgiveness from ourselves. This is despite the fact that some of the time we feel disappointed by certain things we did, said and thought, or vice versa, things we didn’t do even though we needed to. Feelings of disappointment or anger stand in our way of learning, correcting, and behaving differently the next time. The following tips will help you learn to forgive yourself, an action that is not only important, enriching and empowering, but may also be the biggest obstacle you face which prevents you from turning a new page.

1. Stop punishing yourself

Just as we punish our children when they do something wrong, we continue to punish ourselves but choose an inefficient way to do so. Anger and disappointment are a self-punishment mechanism that most of us implement without thinking twice because we often err and think that self-forgiveness is like forgetting what we did. If this is why you find it difficult to forgive yourself, remember that the more effective way to look at things is to understand that forgiveness is a process of being aware of what happened, and not reversing a mistake. It makes sense to tell ourselves that we aren’t proud of what we’ve done, but we want to move on in order to protect ourselves, our health and our relationships with those around us. This statement allows us to begin to find the way forward, instead of falling into a dangerous cycle of self-harm on an emotional level.

2. Categorize the source of your anger

We may walk around with a sense of self-disappointment for a long time, without stopping to think about what exactly disappointed us in the way we acted. Our reluctance to classify the mistake we’ve made may stem from fear of dealing with the past and placing a mirror in front of an action we aren’t proud of. However, it is, of course, difficult and impossible to forgive ourselves for something we are trying to repress. Try to go back to the moment when you felt you were wrong, and ask yourself why this is a mistake that makes you feel bad today. If we fight with our partner, we may feel bad because in our opinion this is a sign of our failure in the relationship. If we lead an unhealthy lifestyle, we may be angry at hurting ourselves, and if we refrain from intervening in a family conflict we may be angry at ourselves for not acting, where in hindsight, we should have acted.

3. Think about the values that guide you today

The reason most of us feel guilty or ashamed about past actions is that these actions are incompatible with our values today. Try to identify and define which values that accompany you now conflict with what you’ve done or haven’t done before, and in what way. Defining the values and identifying the precise location of the incompatibility allows us to get a clearer picture not only of the reason we regret what we did but also of the issue of whether we feel bad because our way of thinking has changed, or rather a clash of values we experienced the second we made the mistake.

4. Do not allow one action to define who you are

Once you know the cause of your self-anger and why these feelings came up, remind yourself that this is a case, an act, or period in your life that is unable to define who you are as a person. Some of us tend to think of a mistake we made in work or relationships as a sign that we aren’t successful in what we are doing, rather than treating it as it is: a mistake. Of course, if we define ourselves by these mistakes, we won’t be able to emerge from the cycle that will enable us to be better partners or more efficient employees. Remember that every person, even the most successful, fails or makes a couple mistakes in their lifetime.
Accepting the fact that these mishaps don’t affect who we are doesn’t mean that we’re ignoring our flaws or that we aren’t trying to improve ourselves. This means that our strength is embodied in the fact that we value ourselves enough to rise above these moments, so as not to stop our progress. One of the things that can help you is to speak about the problem to a person you trust and try to use their point of view to see it in a less serious and even comic way. Such a conversation will give you the support and freedom you need to stop taking the problem too seriously and to realize that for the people you care about, you are much more than just your mistakes.

5. Create a "redo" list

Go back to the day you feel you made the mistake, and think how you would react if you were warned about what was to happen. Your "re-do" list is the warning and tool that will allow you to be more prepared for the next time. Try to think or register to yourself how you would have acted otherwise if you could do things again. Thus, you can be sure that not only did you identify the problem and learn from the mistake, but that you’re allowing yourself to acquire knowledge and skills in order to do things differently in the future. Even if it is more than one mistake, don’t be discouraged by the size of the “project”. If the next time you encounter a similar situation you make all of the same mistakes except for one, know that you have internalized, improved and progressed, which is no small feat!

6. Move forward using the “bike-riding” method

When we learned to ride a bike as children, most of us realized that it was a process and that we would need several attempts before we stopped falling. New patterns of behavior and thinking are no different, since here too we are learning acquired skills. Remember that there is no reason for you not to be wrong before you can move on, and if you hadn’t forgiven yourself for every fall while learning to ride a bike, you probably wouldn’t be able to ride properly today.
The way we respond to situations depends on the basket of skills we have, our mood, and how we perceive a situation at that time. Maybe we did not see things as they were, we acted out of defense or we were stressed. However, allow yourself to err in order to move towards your ultimate goal, that is to act more correctly next time. Look at the list of "re-doing" you created and remember that if you learn from your mistakes, they’ll never have been made in vain.

7. If possible - improve. If not, move on

If you’ve hurt someone or you didn’t do something you were supposed to do, try asking for forgiveness and correcting what you can. Those who surround you knowing that you own your mistakes doesn’t diminish your value, in fact, it does the opposite. If you’ve made a few mistakes, don’t expect yourself to immediately improve and correct them all. Focus on the most important things, and remind yourself that you are on the right path even if you haven’t fixed everything.
At the same time, remember that not everything is fixable and that at some point you must accept that some things have happened and can’t be erased. The last step is to finally turn the page and accept what happened as a past event. Look forward, set new goals for yourself and move on to new destinations knowing that you’ll be able to do them more easily this time.

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Premature Baby Needs Care and Lactation Support

According to WHO, every year about 15 million babies around the world are born prematurely (before 37 weeks of pregnancy). Mother’s milk is the only source that can provide optimal nutrition for the baby, especially at this stage. In cases of mother-infant separation such as in the neonatal intensive care units (NICU), breastfeeding may become a challenge.

Therefore, at this stage it is important for the mothers to follow a routine and keep certain things in mind while taking care of their preemie along with good support system to help them in their journey.

Available Lactational Support for Mothers & Key Criteria

Here are the list of available lactation support for mothers and some of the key criteria.

Antenatal Education

All expectant mothers/couples should be educated about breastfeeding during pregnancy. Research has shown that 2nd trimester is the best time for antenatal education as the mother is receptive to information. In case, there is impeding premature labour/birth, breastfeeding should be an important aspect of counseling.

Informed Decision

Standardised information for NICU mothers must be provided by the support team (doctors and nurses at the NICU) about the value of mother's milk specifying techniques to build an adequate milk supply. Providing consistent and timely information to NICU families not only helps them feel included in their baby's care but also enables them to make an informed decision and understand options available.

First Expression of Milk Post Delivery

Hospital protocols should outline expression within 1 hour of birth; regular trainings of the NICU staff and audits of performance must be carried out. Stimulating the breasts in the first hours via expression is important. This supports timely initiation and long-term milk production.

Frequent Expression of Milk

Hospital protocols must also outline expressing 8 or more times per 24 hours, including in the night; regular monitoring must still be performed. Frequent expression is critical to achieving adequate volumes. Double pumping every two to three hours is beneficial for this. Mothers should be taught and made to practice both manual and pump expression.

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How to defuse a child’s tantrum with one question

This isn't my story, but by a mother of a tantrum child.

This parenting tip could change the game with your little ones.

I have not read every child psychology book, nor did I take a course on how to avoid/stop/end a child’s tantrum. But because of a personal experience with my 5-year-old daughter, I really want to share a “formula” that I learned recently so that people can change course when kids insist on getting all worked up over something small.

But first, I need to tell you a story. My daughter started kindergarten and she was a little anxious. She kept saying she wasn’t going to be able to keep up. And this behavior ended up unfolding at home: she was increasingly throwing tantrums over anything, even the smallest most meaningless things. On the school’s recommendation, we booked a few sessions with a child psychologist so that the child could talk about what she was feeling in hopes things would calm down.

Among the many tips that psychologist  gave us, there was one that I found fantastic, although it was very simple — and that’s exactly why I feel it’s worth sharing.

The psychologist explained to me that we need to make children feel respected in the sense of acknowledging what they are feeling. And so, at the time of a crisis, whatever the reason for it, we need to help kids (ages 5 and up) think and figure out what is going on with them. When we acknowledge what they are going through, and at the same time make them participate in solving the problem, we can disarm the tantrum.

More objectively: When a tantrum starts — either because the doll’s arm came off, or because it’s time to go to bed, or because the homework did not come out the way she wanted, or because he did not want to do a chore — whatever the reason, we can ask them the following question, looking into their eyes and in a calm voice: “Is this a big problem, a medium problem, or a small problem?” 

For my daughter, those moments of sincerely thinking about what was going on around her have become magical, at least here at home. And every time I ask the question and she answers, we find a way to solve the problem, starting from her perception of where to look for the solution. A small problem is always quick and simple to solve. There are some problems she considers medium. They will most likely be solved, but not at that instant, and she has to understand that there are things that need some time to happen. If a problem is serious — and obviously what is serious from a child’s point-of-view is not something to be dismissed, even though it may seem silly to us — you might need to talk it over more and help her understand that sometimes there are things that do not go exactly the way we want.
 
I can give many examples where I have used this little question recently. During one instance, we were choosing clothes for school. My daughter often makes a big fuss over her outfits, especially when it’s cooler out. To summarize: she wanted to wear her favorite pair of pants but they were in the wash. She started to melt down and I asked, “Alice, is this a big, medium, or small problem?” She looked at me sheepishly and said quietly, “Small.” And I once again explained that we already knew that small problems are easy to solve. I asked for her suggestions on how we would solve that small problem (I learned that it is important to give her time to think and respond) and she said, “Choosing other pants.” And I added, “And you have more than one pair of pants to choose from.” She smiled and went to get another pair of pants. I congratulated her on having solved the problem herself because, of course, valuing the solution is an essential aspect, to finish off the story.

I do not think there are any miraculous solutions for raising children. The other day I was thinking about how it is a real saga, this mission of putting people in the world: going through all the phases, walking along paths that sometimes lead us into an ambush, having the humility to turn back and try another way. In all honesty, this advice comes from my great desire to share a light that appeared on my path as a mother, and I hope from the heart that it will work for you too.


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New tech identifies 100 cancer-causing genetic variants

Scientists have identified nearly 100 genetic variants implicated in the development of deadly cancers such as breast cancer and prostate cancer.

The new method designed by the team, identified these variants in the under-explored regions of DNA that do not code for proteins, but instead influence activity of other genes.

As even more whole genome sequences become available, this approach can be applied to find any potential disease-causing variant in the non-coding regions of the genome, researchers said.

Researchers can now identify DNA regions within non-coding DNA, the major part of the genome that is not translated into a protein, where mutations can cause diseases such as cancer.

Their approach reveals many potential genetic variants within non-coding DNA that drive the development of a variety of different cancers. This approach has great potential to find other disease-causing variants.

Recent studies have emphasised the biological value of the non-coding regions, previously considered 'junk' DNA, in the regulation of proteins.

"Our technique allows scientists to focus in on the most functionally important parts of the non-coding regions of the genome," said the senior author.

Protein-coding genes play a crucial role in human survival and fitness, and are under strong 'purifying' selection, which removes variation, researchers said.

The team found that some non-coding DNA regions showed almost the same low levels of variation as protein-coding genes, and called these 'ultra-sensitive' regions.

Within the ultra-sensitive regions, they looked at specific single DNA letters that, when altered, caused the greatest disturbance to the genetic region.

If this non-coding, ultra-sensitive region is central to a network of many related genes, variation can cause a greater knock-on effect, resulting in disease, researchers said.

They integrated all this information to develop a computer workflow known as FunSeq. This system prioritises genetic variants in the non-coding regions based on their predicted impact on human disease.

The team applied FunSeq to 90 cancer genomes including breast cancer, prostate cancer and brain tumours, and found nearly 100 potential non-coding cancer driving variants.

In the breast cancer genomes, for example, they found a single DNA letter change that seems to have great impact on the development of breast cancer.

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Walnuts may prevent diabetes and heart disease

Eating walnuts daily can ward off diabetes and heart disease in at-risk individuals, a new study has found.

Researchers  found that daily intake of 56 g of walnuts improves endothelial function in overweight adults with visceral adiposity.

The study included a sample of 46 adults aged 30-75.

Participants had a Body Mass Index larger than 25, and a waist circumference exceeding 40 inches for men and 35 inches for women.

They were also required to be non-smokers, and all exhibited one or more additional risk factors for metabolic syndrome, a precursor of diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

The group was randomly assigned to two 8-week sequences of either a walnut-enriched ad libitum diet or an ad libitum diet without walnuts.

Those chosen for the walnut diet were instructed to consume 56 g of shelled, un-roasted English walnuts per day as a snack or with a meal.

“We know that improving diets tends to be hard, but adding a single food is easy,” explained Dr and lead author of the research team.

“Our theory is that if a highly nutritious, satiating food like walnuts is added to the diet, there are dual benefits: the benefits of that nutrient rich addition and removal of the less nutritious foods,” Dr. said.

The research found that daily intake of 56 g of walnuts improves endothelial function in overweight adults with visceral adiposity.

“The primary outcome measure was the change in flow-mediated vasodilatation (FMD) of the brachial artery,” researchers said.

“Secondary measures included serum lipid panel, fasting glucose and insulin, Homeostasis Model Assessment-Insulin Resistance values, blood pressure, and anthropometric measures.

“FMD improved significantly from baseline when subjects consumed a walnut-enriched diet as compared with the control diet. Beneficial trends in systolic blood pressure reduction were seen, and maintenance of the baseline anthropometric values was also observed. Other measures were unaltered,” they said.

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Some Ways To Overcome Pain

Although pain is generally viewed as something negative, when seen through a prism of faith, it carries much deeper and complex meaning. It allows the sufferer to gain greater compassion, grow in strength and courage, and, ultimately, experience the joy of God’s ultimate love. Here are seven ways to find that joy in pain.

When the sensation of pain makes us feel older than our years, when life seems endlessly harsh, joy is present in things we might never have seen or imagined. A newborn baby, a just-opened flower, a day punctuated by self-discovery and hidden treasure – these and other examples of life’s ever-unfolding newness are all around us, inviting us to enjoy them and find joy in them.

The colours of pain might be the destructive red of searing loss, the inky black of an unknown future, or the lifeless grey of loneliness. It is hard to find comfort in them, but other colours can take their place. The bright gold of time with a good friend, the subtle pink of allowing yourself to rest, or the vibrant green of new hope found in advocating for yourself – all these and more can bring vitality and strength to your journey.

Inside of us, pain can hit hard and keep us down. But outside, there is much to uplift us. Music, nature, art, literature, journalism– these activities,or any other hobby that you've,  whether you do them or experience them, can provide counterbalance to the sadness and feeling of helplessness inside and inspire your spirit beyond them to find joy.

Unable to feel whole or of value? There is nothing like becoming someone else’s hero to revive your sense of worth. A day at an animal shelter, time spent with someone who is ill, an unexpected email to someone you know needs encouragement – no good gesture is too small to make a difference to the world and that, in turn, comes back to you in the form of fulfilment and joy.

The medications, the doctor’s visits, the therapy, the waiting, the sleepless nights – life with pain can get very complicated and crowd out simpler, more positive moments. Find a simple, still corner in your day, a place and time where you can appreciate life as the gift that it is. Then, from this place of simplicity, bring your renewed spirit into the other, more challenging parts of your world.

DON"T LOSE YOUR CHILDHOOD INNOCENCE- Even children who are seriously ill have a way of finding delight, laughing, and playing. When we reach adulthood, we do not abandon our childhood innocence and trust, but we might not acknowledge its presence when pain interferes. Invite whimsy, play, and humour into your life and let it rekindle your inner child – and the joy that resides in your heart.





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