Saturday, August 21, 2021

How to Do Walking Meditation, According to Experts

Walking meditation is a form of mindfulness meditation practiced all over the world. At its core, walking meditation is simply bringing your attention to your feet, your body and the ground below you and focusing your mind on what it feels like to walk. It's easy, requires no special equipment and can be worked into your everyday life.

This form of meditation is a standard part of a practice for Buddhists and others who meditate regularly. "According to Buddhist teachings, there are four basic postures of the human body: sitting, standing, walking and lying down," explains Mushim Ikeda, a Buddhist teacher associated with the East Bay Meditation Center in Oakland, California. "And meditation can be practiced—and should be practiced—in all four postures," she adds.

You can use walking meditation as an introduction to meditation or simply practice it as a way to help yourself stay centered and block out stress and distraction during the day. Like other forms of movement meditation (including yoga), it also offers the opportunity to practice mindfulness while caring for our bodies by engaging in light exercise.

What Is Walking Meditation, Exactly?

"When we say walking meditation, that is not a term that means one thing," says Ikeda. "There are different styles of walking meditation, different forms of it, in the same way that when we say 'yoga' it doesn't mean one thing." Some Theravada Buddhists, for instance, practice a form of walking meditation that includes walking barefoot or in very light shoes so that they can feel the ground below them. Other forms of walking meditation combine walking with breathing exercises or visualizations. Followers of Thich Nhat Hanh's meditations mentally repeat phrases like "I have arrived, I am home" with each step.

Health Benefits of Walking Meditation

A few minutes of walking meditation can leave you feeling calm, centered and collected and help you connect to the experience of being in your body. Like all forms of meditation, it also has proven health benefits: it can increase self-awareness, reduce stress and negative emotions, increase imagination and creativity, and promote mental health. Over the long term, meditation may also help practitioners manage and improve a variety of health issues, from chronic pain to anxiety and depression and even high blood pressure, heart disease and asthma. There's also a link between regular meditation and a reduced risk of Alzheimer's disease. Moreover, because walking meditation involves actually taking some time to walk around, it can also improve your physical health by helping you move your body.

Practicing walking meditation can also help you reevaluate what you think "relaxing" should look like. "Mindfulness requires us to be in a state, ideally, that is both relaxed and alert, which is very different from the way most Americans (myself included) think about relaxation, which is kicking back and watching Netflix and having some ice cream or something," says Ikeda. "It's not alert, in other words. If we're alert, we think we've got to be on edge. There's this element of tension in it. So we want to release tension and we want to be alert, which is very good for mental and physical health."

Lastly, many people practice this form of meditation because it makes them happy. "Looking at Thich Nhat Hanh's way of walking meditation, we can say that we do it to bring joy into our life," says Ikeda. "We can think about 'Can this path lead to joy?' 'Can our walking meditation bring more lightness, more ease to our lives?'"

How to Start Doing Walking Meditation

The easiest form of walking meditation to begin with is a simple mindfulness meditation. When you first begin your practice, it helps to set aside some dedicated time and space. (According to the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, you'll want to dedicate 10 minutes a day to the practice for the first week, or longer, because studies show that mindfulness increases as you get more practice.)

In some instances, this style of meditation doesn't require you to walk in a certain way or at a certain pace—just to pay attention to how your body feels as you move through the world. Some people choose specific "walking paths" to move along during their meditation, but you can also do this meditation anytime, anywhere by simply bringing your attention to the sensation of walking.

  1. Pick a path—a field at a park, a section of your yard or just an open space next to your kitchen table—to walk along. The path should be long enough for you to walk at least 10 to 15 steps before turning around.
  2. Bring your awareness to your body: Stand with your feet planted firmly on the ground and let your body rest comfortably. Feel the pressure of the earth beneath your feet and the sensations throughout your body. (You can close your eyes for part of this step, if it's helpful.)
  3. Begin walking along your "path." Ikeda notes that if you're feeling nervous, you should just start walking normally, to relax your body, without thinking about it as meditation. Once you get going, think about holding your body with ease and confidence. (Mindfulness expert Jack Kornfield calls this walking "as if you were a king or queen out for a royal stroll.")
  4. Once you relax, you can start walking a little more slowly than you normally walk, as a way to help focus your mind on your movement. If you like, you can really slow down and notice all the different elements of each step, taking note of the feelings of the movement (and the uplift in the spine, the balance in the body) as well as the sensations of the world around you (the sun, the breeze). (If you get so slow that you start to wobble, Ikeda recommends picking up your speed by one notch, so that you're comfortable and at ease.)
  5. With each step, feel the sensation of lifting your foot off the ground, moving it forward, putting it back down and shifting your weight. Continue walking easily, being mindful of how your body feels as you lift and place your feet. As you're walking, if you're indoors and safe, you could choose to be hyper-focused on the feeling of the walking. But in most places, you should maintain situational awareness and notice the world around you (gopher holes, cars, etc.) so that you stay safe.
  6. When your attention wanders (and it will, a lot!), gently bring your mind back to your feet and your body. This action of noticing when your mind wanders—whether it's every few seconds or every minute or two—and bringing your attention back to your purpose is one of the core experiences of any mindfulness practice.
  7. When you reach the end of your path, pause, take a few breaths, gather your attention in your body, then turn around. Continue walking around or along your path for 10 to 20 minutes (or longer, if you like). Adjust your speed to whatever pace feels comfortable for your body. As you get used to meditation, your mind might wander less, but no matter how often your mind wanders—or how long it has wandered for—you should never feel bad about it. Instead, simply note where your mind wandered to and bring your attention back to walking.
  8. Once you're comfortable with walking meditation, you can continue a formal practice, walking along a set path for a set amount of time each day. You can also begin employing this skill when you need to feel centered, no matter where you're walking—on the way to the train, on a walk through your neighborhood or as you're doing errands.
  9. While practicing, remember that you don't have to focus all of your attention on walking to the exclusion of everything else. Ikeda notes that Thich Nhat Hanh says that if we see a flower or feel the sunshine, we might want to stop and be with that sensation for a bit. "We can look at that flower, or touch that tree, and again affirm that life on Earth can be so wonderful, so refreshing, so beautiful," she says.

Guided Walking Meditation and Walking Meditation Apps

If you're looking for some help with walking meditation, you can find a number of different apps and guided meditations to get you started. Leading meditation experts like Jack Kornfield and Sharon Salzberg offer taped instructions for getting started or guided meditations that you can listen to while you walk. If you'd prefer an app you can keep on your phone, try Headspace, which has lessons like 'Walking in the City' and 'Walking in Nature,' or Calm, which offers different lengths of walking meditations starting at a short, 5-minute meditation and ending with a 30-minute meditation. You can also combine a walking meditation with another kind of meditation, like focusing on phrases of loving kindness.

Other Movement Meditations

Of course, walking meditation doesn't work for everyone. "The first thing to remember is disability and access; not everyone can do walking meditation," says Ikeda. If you can't walk (or can't walk comfortably), there are other forms of movement meditation that you can try. Ikeda recommends Mahasati or "great mindfulness" meditation (sometimes also called "rhythmic meditation"), which is done with just arm and hand movements. The practice, which comes from Thailand, involves repeating a simple sequence of movements with the arms and hands, usually slowly lifting one hand at a time and placing it first over the stomach and then over the heart.

This practice can also be useful to anyone looking for another form of meditation or for a form of meditation that can be practiced during everyday moments. "It can also be boiled down to just starting with the hand palm-down, turning it up on the side mindfully, feeling the sensation and then turning the hand palm-down," says Ikeda. "You could do this if you're riding on a bus, if you're a passenger in a car or, if you're in a meeting, you could do it under the table, on your lap, and no one would even know."

 

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Saturday, July 17, 2021

How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You—Even When It Feels Impossible

Whether your partner had an affair, your best friend betrayed you, or a family member mistreated you for years, figuring out how to forgive someone can seem like a herculean task.

The most important thing to remember: Forgiving someone is by no means a necessity—especially if the offender is someone who could still pose a threat to your well-being.

But if you find that you are ready to let go and forgive, know that it comes with a slew of health benefits, experts say. When you hold onto grudges, you trap yourself in a cycle of rumination, negative emotions, and stress, says Loren Toussaint, Ph.D., a forgiveness researcher and professor of psychology at Luther College in Decorah, Iowa.

Over time, chronically-heightened levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) can lead to a number of mental and physical health problems, says Everett L. Worthington, Ph.D., professor emeritus in the department of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University. Greater forgiveness, on the other hand, is associated with less stress and, in turn, better mental health, finds a study Toussaint co-authored in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine.

Here’s what you might not realize: Forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to reconcile with them—or need to continue a relationship with them. You may choose to not have them in your life at all. “Forgiveness is experienced inside one’s skin,” says Worthington. It’s the cleansing of your sense of hatred and resentment to heal and move on with your life.

Here, a step-by-step guide on exactly how to do that—even when it feels impossible.


1. Be the bigger person and decide to forgive.

It’s tempting to play the blame game when you’ve been hurt, placing all of the responsibility on the so-called offender and thinking, I’m not going to reach out unless they do.

But that mentality can backfire because you’re placing your ability to heal in someone else’s control, explains Toussaint. By being the bigger person, you put yourself in the position of power. Yes, they hurt you, but you’re allowed to move forward whether or not they’re game.

Forgiveness can’t be forced, though, says Toussaint. You have to choose it for yourself when you are ready to accept what happened, acknowledge your feelings, and let go.

2. Identify what you want.

Do you want to be friends again? Or do you just want to let go of the bad feelings? This won’t necessarily impact how you move forward, but keeping the goal in mind helps you not lose track of what you’re after, says Toussaint. Read: When you’re struggling with your emotions toward the person, reminding yourself of your end goal can ease those feelings.

3. Look at both perspectives objectively.

When you’re hurt, it’s tempting to over-personalize a situation (as in, your cousin was short with you because she’s still mad about an old argument rather than being in a hurry or having a hard day). So when you’re trying to forgive, experts often suggest viewing a situation as objectively as possible by writing it out from a third-party perspective.

For example, rather than re-living the hurt (“Kristin was so rude to me, which made me even angrier at her than I was before”), report what happened from the outside (“What Kristin said was demeaning and insensitive, and Lauren responded with anger”).

Separating yourself from the situation can make it easier to keep your emotions under control. It may even provide a fresh perspective to the situation that helps you come to terms with it.

4. Find empathy or sympathy.

You may even want to try to see the story from someone else’s side, says Toussaint. For instance, if your partner brushed over something that’s super important to you, try to imagine what factors led to this (maybe they had a super long day or were in the middle of a few things).

Understanding where someone is coming from helps you replace negative, unforgiving emotions (hostility and bitterness) with positive emotions (like empathy and compassion), says Worthington.

If there’s absolutely no way you can empathize with an offender, try to sympathize instead by remembering when you, too, have been forgiven for something. Again, your brain only has so much space and choosing positive emotions leaves less room for negative ones, helping you feel freer.

5. Tell—or don’t tell.

If you’ve come to forgive someone, the desire to let them know is understandable. Before you do, though, keep in mind that when you say “I forgive you,” you’re implying they’ve wronged you. If they don’t understand this, you might offend them (“Forgive me? For what?”) and set yourself up to be hurt again.

For this reason, forgiveness should only be offered to a person after they’ve apologized, confessed, offered to make amends, or at the very least already taken responsibility for wronging you, says Worthington. If you decide to have a conversation, try using ‘I’ language instead of ‘you’ language (‘I felt X’), Worthington suggests.

Otherwise, remember that forgiveness is a personal and internal process, so there’s no need to tell the person you’ve forgiven them, especially if you’ve cut off contact for your own well-being. If you’ve freed yourself of the anger, pain, and hurt that was once weighing you down, you’ve already forgiven them.

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