Tips to get kids off their screens
Do you ever find yourself fighting for your
kids' attention? Of course, the thing that keeps them from paying
attention to you is... their smartphone. We know how negative the
effects can be. You're missing out on precious quality family time.
Smartphones are interrupting one-on-one interactions. Not to mention how
compromising it is for the kids' health to be exposed to screens for
prolonged periods
You and I both know that neither politely
asking nor assertively demanding to put that phone away is going to
help. What will, though? Here are 5 tips to help you build a plan to
combat the screens.
1. Set Screen-Time Limits
Once you set the limits, declare them and
stick to them. With your older children, you can negotiate and agree on a
timeframe that is accepted by both parties to avoid conflict. For the
younger ones, try to split the time throughout the day, as they find it
more difficult to resist urges, and a strict hand will only lead to
conflict and more resistance from their side.
Meet them in the middle: if they tend to reach for their phone to rest
after lunch, allow them to use a portion of their designated screen-time
after lunch. Keep them posted every 10 minutes on how much time is left
for the day.
2. Out of Sight, Out of Mind
When the phone is near, but you KNOW you're
not allowed to touch it, your willpower is on the line. Don't put your
children to this test, as it requires many mental resources. It will be
much easier for everyone to put them away and forget they exist.
Phones won't nag the kids so much once they are away from the disturbing
notification sounds that trigger anxiety. And you won't have to
constantly play cop too! This means you could also throw a sheet over
the TV if you'd like. You could also make a small morning ritual in
which all of you put the phones away together in a basket and have
breakfast together without screens.
3. Involve Them in Your Daily Activities
Don't leave the kids to entertain
themselves. Children, especially the younger ones, love to imitate
grown-ups, so see how you can involve them in your activities if you
haven't got anything planned just for them. For example, they can help
with meal preparation, gardening, or even hanging the laundry to dry.
And you can help with building a fortress in the living room! Challenge
yourself not to be concerned if they accidentally spill juice or make a
little mess - this is a learning curve for both of you.
4. Spend Time Outside
The great outdoors is as stimulating as
their phone and is much much healthier. One of the reasons why kids are
so attached to their small-screen devices is that they are very
stimulating. There are endless varying sounds and constant movements on
the screen, keeping them trapped in a loop, waiting for the next
stimulus. Spending time outside rather than inside (if possible) is all
the more stimulating, with added health benefits.
Here's a list of light activities outside:
Easy hiking trails
Tennis
Going to the beach
Having a picnic in the park (extra points for cooking outside)
Camp out and bonfire with s'mores
Taking a pedalboat on the lake
Shopping together at the farmer's market
Going to the library and picking a bedtime story together.
5. Create a Challenge
If you feel your children can handle it and
it won't create too many conflicts, create a healthy challenge or
competition for the time you'll spend together. This is a good way to
keep them occupied and help them develop skills while strengthening your
family bonds.
Here are examples for inspiration:
Learn how to skate on roller-blades
See who can score the most jumps on the jump rope
Fold an origami project the fastest\ most accurately
Can we build a tree-house together in 48 hours?
Who can draw the largest side-walk drawing with chalk?
Learn how to bake macaroons or any other challenging pastry.